tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537109730798176428.post6256767570806604734..comments2023-03-20T04:22:45.797-05:00Comments on Moving up on the "People Who Deserve Happiness" list: Had He ChangedJoanna V Hunterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13704873639203570533noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537109730798176428.post-35392150297861806592021-01-11T11:39:05.582-06:002021-01-11T11:39:05.582-06:00Thank you so much for your comment. I'm glad t...Thank you so much for your comment. I'm glad to know this blog has helped you. Take care,<br />JoannaMoving up on the people who deserve happiness listhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04618539714026407026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537109730798176428.post-73319504702554954472021-01-03T07:20:15.737-06:002021-01-03T07:20:15.737-06:00I am very enjoyed for this blog. Its an informativ...I am very enjoyed for this blog. Its an informative topic. It help me very much to solve some problems. Its opportunity are so fantastic and working style so speedy. <a href="https://pewdipiemerch.com/" rel="nofollow">https://pewdipiemerch.com/</a><br />Tiffany Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00589908418364280843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537109730798176428.post-2291613646811248622010-11-15T16:48:22.056-06:002010-11-15T16:48:22.056-06:00I agree wholehardedly you can never forget what u ...I agree wholehardedly you can never forget what u experienced. I lived with my abuser 2 years after we were not a couple anymore and he refused to leave my house. He wanted to live off of me, seeing him everyday was shear hell, but I dreaded him seeing our son without me around I am going to ased for supervised visits, but just getting calls from him can make me sick, you see he is a chronic liar...he swore he would move out when he received a settelment from a car accident but never did...this deal was made after he punched me in the eye causing retina tears, he threw our son to the ground screaming at him because he said he gave him a dirty look.<br />that is after 11 years of punched holes in walls broken property bruises on my arms, being thrown to the ground and called every name in the book, i truly hate him but want to heal...you are so right the pain will always reside somewhere in u but u have to let it go so u can live.....Doreen Drapalnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537109730798176428.post-83245253324066178872010-11-15T07:52:27.919-06:002010-11-15T07:52:27.919-06:00I was in an abusive relationship for five years. T...I was in an abusive relationship for five years. The abuse stoppped while I was pregnant and for the first year of my child's life but then it started again and even escalated. When I threatened to leave, it got worse and more "strategic" (i.e. more intimidating behavior and waiting until the baby was asleep, waking me in the middle of the night to fight, etc.). He also started taking our child out of my hands and leaving for hours, only to return when I "agreed" to something he wanted. I filed for divorce because I could not fathom my child growing up in a home where this behavior was the norm. I also feared greatly for my child's safety (though I almost convinced myself that there is no way my husband would hurt our child, rather just keep the abusive behavior solely towards me...glad I unconvinced myself of that one).<br /><br />After I filed for divorce, I was able to restore my faith in God and go to church and be with people who gave and continue to give me and my child unconditional love and support. Because part of my healing has been forgiveness towards my ex-husband, I have also wondered "what if he'd changed". I agree with you whole heartedly that seeing him everyday would have been a reminder of the hurt and humiliation. Even now that we are divorced and after 14 months of him having supervised visitation with our child, he says and does things that are harrassing and threatening (and yes I have reported these things to the authorities). <br /><br />I don't know anyone who has been an abusive relationship that "recovered" though I imagine these exceptions exist...particularly when God is a guiding force...but I know trauma is hard to forget and I am not sure an abuser/former abuser can ever do enough to take away the pain they caused the abused.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com